There’s No Place Like Home

My son and his wife come into the den where we’re sitting, all smiles. “You got it?”

“Yes. We signed the lease as soon as they handed it to us.”

There had been some trepidation about finding housing near where they are working. My son and his wife had to go through a screening interview yesterday, and bring their dog. I’ve written about her, Friendly. They call her “Fraidy” because anxiety makes her timid—and defensive. This meet-and-greet would involve two unfamiliar adults, two young children ages four and seven, and their own pup, as well as an additional neighbor, also a dog owner, who rents the unit right behind them.

Their new hometown boasts a population of 53,000, and housing is exceedingly tight. Those looking for renters have their choice. But they wanted my kids. Jobs. Educations. Recent home owners themselves. Yesterday I read a disturbing article in High Country News entitled, “Did James Plymell Need to Die?” Set where they have just landed a berth, the story indicted the police force for its criminalization and heartless treatment toward the homeless.

Homelessness is a topic for another post. What can we do to make life better for those so desperately struggling?

And I feel both guilty and selfish to move past the human toll of inadequate housing to the personal satisfaction that my kids made the cut. We all want our children to be happy, and finding a place to settle is a step on the path. Something I will continue to ponder, now that they have a place to call home.

7 thoughts on “There’s No Place Like Home”

  1. Congratulations to your son and daughter-in-law for finding and getting a home. A move is always unsettling, especially when you don’t have a permanent place to go to. So glad things work out well for them.

  2. I’m so happy for them. It is crazy that being able to simply have a home is something we have to interview for inorder to make the cut. Glad they did.

  3. The housing issue is endlessly complex, isn’t it.
    I was struck by the dog’s response to anxiety. We recently adopted a new dog who is similarly distressed by new folks. People have been masked most of his life, and we (and his previous owners) think these masks add to his anxiety.

    1. I’d never though about the masks contributing to anxiety. Thanks for that. Regarding the housing CRISIS? I am 100% mired in all the nuances. I see everyone’s perspective, or try to. There is no one solution, but we have to have the will to start somewhere.

  4. Housing is such a complicated issue. It sometimes feels like as much as there is a desire to ensure safety and security for those who need it most, there is just as much desire to ignore the problem, blame, and shame. I can imagine the conflict you feel. Of course you want the best for your family and yet it seems so unfair that others can’t seem to find the same comforts of home that they also deserve. I wish your son and his family the best. A new home is so exciting and hopeful.

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